We laid our beautiful little angel to rest yesterday, on an uncharacteristically beautiful and sunny winter's day. His funeral was incredibly moving and his father lowered him into his final resting place surrounded by so many family and friends with heaps more sending him best wishes from afar.
Today we pick up the pieces and start to think about how to continue on with our lives after laying our little gift to rest.
Your outpouring of support has humbled us and kept us feeling strong, despite the grief that comes and goes in waves. Its hard to explain how thankful I am for every single one of you who took the time out of your busy lives to think of our little family for a moment and send us a well worded note or comment. Having all your support has really made a difference and each of you who have commented or even thought of us, thank you very much.
To help explain a little about how we feel today, I summarise with a message from A, hoping his wise words not just sum up perfectly how we feel at this moment, but also perhaps may help any of you should you ever have to go through something like this in the future:
The wife and I just had a really nice chat celebrating our lad. There were one or two tears but there were way more laughter and smiles.
We both genuinely feel that we are the luckiest people on the planet. We deeply believe that God gave us a lifetime of happiness via Idrees. Idrees, against all odds survived and thrived in the womb. He gave us so many memories, such happiness and taught us so many lessons.
He taught me that like him we all need to be fighters and never complain. The lad never cried when under the meds or pipes. He didn't cry once when he passed away in our arms on Saturday.
He taught me that we should live life and not waste it if we have the healthy organs to do so. We are going to take his life as inspiration to become as strong, fit and able as our bodies allow and avoid abusing them for we have been given the gift of health.
He taught me to be strong as he was through the womb and outside.
He taught me that passing away need not be the scary thing one perceives. But it can be the most beautiful thing after your child's birth. He passed away so peacefully in our arms today, with his mum and dad kissing him, telling him how much of an inspiration he is and how much of a hero he is and how much we learnt from him. I don't know many people who are lucky enough to pass like that.
To this date, I was dreading giving him his final rites and his funeral. But I felt so at peace during his the whole process. Nothing felt more natural. Not many of us are lucky to pass away in our mums arms and have a loving dad lay us to rest.
He wasn't taken away too early and we aren't hard done by at all. He lived exactly how long he was supposed to and as parents we will be inspired to live better for our son. We are lucky that we have our health and a roof on our head. We shall not waste time that our son didn't get and always use his memories to fuel us to be better people.
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